When I was in seminary, I took a class that required us to take a Myers-Briggs test to help us learn about ourselves. The whole idea was to cultivate a more self-aware student as they embarked on their ministerial career (though I had no intention of being a pastor). My result was not entirely surprising: INTP. And when our professor showed a couple memes that placed characters from certain movies into each category, it revealed that I’m either Yoda or Gandalf.
At the time it was mostly affirming. I’ve often been deemed a loner and early in school this didn’t bode well for a social life. But seeing that I was in the category of two powerful and wise characters from their respective universes, I felt a lot better about being an introvert.
But there was a blurb below the actual results that didn’t care for the memes. It explained in greater detail what my tendencies, both positive and negative, would mostly likely be. I genuinely forget the positive ones because once I saw a particular negative trait, I felt pretty jarred: It said that people with my combination of letters (INTP) tend to lack discipline.
Despite graduating seminary and then completing an MFA program, that line still haunts me. “Lacks discipline.” If conquering my Imposter Syndrome hadn’t already been difficult enough, these two little words have often been the fuel against my best efforts to feel like I belonged, and that I was capable. And not just for writing, either; every job I’ve worked since has always had this cloud hanging over it with the message of, “You’ll never be good at this; you don’t have what it takes to anything good because you can’t be disciplined about it.”
No amount of accomplishments or promotions has helped, either. Like I said, I received two Master’s diplomas with this cloud hanging over me and it seems to have only grown since. Early last year, I was awarded Partner of the Quarter at my Starbucks store; I still went home feeling like I totally fucked up at work. Later in the year, I was promoted to a supervisor and told that I was “over-qualified” for the job (and they meant it positively!). But sure enough, when training began and then when I was scheduled to run the floor for the first time, I felt like my fraudulent self was about to be discovered.
Sure, I lasted about nine months in the role and I only quit when my hours were cut below a livable paycheck. But ever since, my brain has interpreted almost that entire experience as one where I dropped the ball as a leader. And every time that feeling washes over me, all I can think is that I “lack discipline.”
It’s been a battle in the last few months to get any creative project off the ground. I have outlines for days for what should be my first podcast episode or my first Substack newsletter or my first Ko-Fi chapter. But not a single one of them has launched yet. Instead, I open up each document every now and again, edit this thing, add that thing, then save and close it. Minutes, hours, or days later, I do it all over again with a completely different document for a completely different project. And this has been the pattern for the last few months.
A thought occurred to me. What if this definition of “discipline” isn’t even good? What if it’s framed in a production-driven understanding of how we live our day to day? That is, what if the range of what “discipline” even means is limited to a 21st century capitalistic understanding? That anyone not producing for oneself or, more importantly, one’s employer must be considered to “lack discipline”?
Even if that weren’t the case (because I have no doubt it’s partially this), there’s still the fact that at no point in any of my academic days have I ever done anything creative out of a strict, regimented commitment to a word count and a deadline. Though due dates have often spurred me into action, getting the work done has always come from following my creative intuition. Being disciplined didn’t lead me to write more than half my graduate essays literally the night before they were due. And when it came time to write either of my theses, I always turned in my work beyond the deadline – even if only by a day or so.
My point here is that when it comes to developing a creative practice, I have long been taught that forcing oneself into a regimented practice is the best way to get results. But it’s clear to me now that the results aren’t the goal; being creative is. And that can happen in a variety of ways – maybe it’s a day where I read or listen to a book, or maybe I binge-watch a few episodes of a show I enjoy, or even tackle all the chores I’ve put off for a minute. Monotonous tasks have often bred more creativity for me than any daily word count goal ever has. I wasn’t staring at my computer when I imagined the pivotal scene for my MFA’s creative thesis; I was washing dishes (the very thing my main character was doing).
Arguably, the compulsion to be “disciplined” in a sense of steadily producing something that can be exploited or consumed is a key part of being neuro-normative – or at least being read that way. But there is no way I’m not neuro-divergent, at least in some small way. And that means that I should not follow along with whatever commonly accepted neuro-normative practice a professor or employer or even a parental figure wants me to do. In fact, I would venture to say that this sense of “discipline” – the kind that says productivity is the end-all, be-all of human existence – isn’t healthy for anyone.
In other words, yeah, I actually am an imposter. I’ve been masking as a book-smart, straight-A student my entire life. My super power is being able to hyper-fixate on a project long enough not just to where it was done to the standards of the assignment, but done so well professors thought I’d been working on it for months. And all of this without completely and irreparably burning myself out. I am not now, nor have I ever been a neuro-typical. Instead, I’ve known the script well enough to give teachers and professors what they wanted to see or hear, and go right back to my own creative practices in my own time.
There will come a day when my Substack, Ko-Fi, and two podcasts are all off and running – and hopefully soon. But none of it will ever happen if I keep carrying this neuro-normative baggage about being “disciplined.” I don’t want to be good at something that dulls my intuition; I just want the safety to follow it wherever it may lead. Maybe you do, too?
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